Terms & Definitions
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Ladyboy
The term “Ladyboy” comes from the English translation of the word Kathoey which originated in Thailand. This term is commonly used in Asia (specifically South-East Asia) to define Transgender Women. The term is generally accepted, especially in Asian countries, but considered as derogatory to the rest of the world.
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Transgender
A person who classifies themselves as Transgender doesn’t align their gender identity with what society has expected of them at birth. With the general public only having two genders to assign at birth, the majority will expect you to act by your assigned gender.
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Pre-op, Post-op, Non-op
Pre-op (Pre-operation) is a Transsexual that hasn’t gone through sex-change surgery yet. She still has her male private parts.
Pre-op (Post-operation) is a Transsexual that has gone through sex-change surgery.
Non-op is a Transsexual that hasn't gone through sex-change surgery and has no plans to go through with the procedure.
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Trans-oriented Man
A Trans-oriented man is a cisgender person who’s sexually and emotionally attracted to Transgender women.
What you should and shouldn’t do when dating a Ladyboy
Dating has and will always be a mystery to people no matter how experienced they are in relationships. When dating, you’ve got to realize that one person is not like the other, especially when it comes to sexual orientation.
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Show that you’re serious and genuine
Action always speaks louder than words. You can’t easily prove to be honest with dating your Ladyboy girlfriend if you don’t show it to her. Take the effort of knowing more about her, taking her on romantic dates, talk to her respectfully, and treat her like the lady she is.
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Do your research
In the digital age, you don’t have any possible reasons as to why you can’t research people’s sexual orientations. It’s your responsibility to know these things, especially if you’re going to be dating a Transwoman. It’s important to remember that not everyone you date would be comfortable talking about their transition process, what pronoun they prefer, or their past relationship partners.
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Stay away from stereotypes, misconceptions, and assumptions
An essential benefit of research is debunking stereotypes and assumptions about particular issues that should have cleared up a long ago. That’s why if it’s your first time dating a Ladyboy or a Trans-oriented man, make sure you’re fully aware of the conversation topics you should avoid to steer clear from miscommunications.
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Derogatory comments are a big No-No
Everyone has the right to free speech. But if your comment’s central purpose is to ruin self-esteems and question personal morals, then that’s something else entirely. It’s never cool to give out derogatory remarks to anyone, let alone people who are just living the life they always wanted and loving whoever they want to without judgment.
Top advice when looking for love on a Ladyboy dating site
Online dating is fun since you get to meet people looking for singles like you while never really going out. That’s all good, but you can still never be too sure with the folks you meet online. Especially the ones you’ve never met in person. For all we know, they aren’t even who they say they are online.
So to protect yourself, here’s a set of online dating tips for both Ladyboys and Trans-oriented men alike.
Know your ideal matches
No one wants to date someone uncertain of the type of relationship they want. Not only that it’s an absolute waste of time, but this also develops unrequited feelings from admirers.
So before you even join a dating site for Ladyboys, reflect on your relationship goals. Are you looking for friendships, casual dating, serious relationships, or marriage? Do you want someone from a specific age range or location? If you’re into astrology, would you want someone compatible with your sign?
Meetups should be on a public place
When you’re meeting the person you met online for the first time, it’s always recommended to meet then in a neutral and safe environment. It doesn’t matter what sexual orientation you have your safety should always be your number one priority. It’s recommended that you meet in a cafe or a quiet restaurant so you could get to know each other without distractions.
Though when it comes to long-distance matches, constant messaging and video calls could also be an alternative until you get to meet in a mutual place you want.
Beware of scams
Aside from avoiding certain types of people on Ladyboy dating sites, it is also an utmost importance to avoid these scams, which can potentially harm you not just financially, but also emotionally. Here are the most common online dating scams you would encounter on a dating site for Ladyboys.
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Unpaid bills
If your date is regularly saying that their electric bill is almost due or their phone and internet bill is almost to its limits, then it’s better to be aware. There’s nothing wrong with helping a fellow out, but you also have to make sure that they’re not taking advantage of your kindness.
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Shipping fee for a care package
It feels great to receive gifts from the matches you found online. It makes you think that they want you to feel loved and appreciated. But make sure to trust your guts when they start asking you for a shipping fee. It just feels weird that you just started getting to know each other online, and they are somehow already asking for some money to deliver the package they have put together for you. Even if you like them as a person and getting along well, it’s only smart to not send money to someone you met online who you haven’t met in person yet.
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Family emergencies
This scam is probably the most used tactic on the playbook. The good old family emergency where they need the money immediately because one of their dear family members is sick in they don’t have enough money to pay the hospital bills. As much as you want to help them out, you don’t know them enough to trust them if their story is true or not. Besides, who has time to go chatting on a dating site when they say that one of their family members is sick? That’s something to think about if you’re interested in giving them some help.
If you’re in this situation, you’re cut between two scenarios. One is if you support them, they might either disappear after getting the money or worse, ask you for more. If you don’t help them, they make you feel horrible. Sometimes, they get defensive towards your rejection to help.
The essential thing to take away here is to be cautious about who you talk to online. Of course, with dating, you should be open to talking to anybody you want and keeping an open mind. But when money somehow got into the early stages of the conversation without you even noticing it, that's the time to cut off ties with them.
Be yourself
Being honest and staying true to who you are is the most important Ladyboy dating tip you could get out of this article.
Wouldn’t it be nice to meet someone where you can just freely be yourself without the fear of being judged? Yes, everybody seems to want that for themselves.
The key to having that on a dating site for Ladyboys is to be yourself from the start. Show your online matches that great you’re to be around. Share the things you find enjoyable with a kind and positive attitude. Also, ask the same thing about them. This entails that you’re a genuine person and willing to get to know them.
Never forget to work on your profile
Your profile is one of the most important things you should have if you’re dating Ladyboys or nice guys online. Imagine getting lots of messages/responses from attractive ladies/men just because your profile has a good set of photos, a well-thought-out description, and many others. Not only does this attract other users to visit your profile, but you also get to filter out members who don’t exactly fit the ones you’re looking for, which saves you time and effort.
On your profile, make sure to walk the talk. If you mentioned that your favorite past time is mountain climbing, include an image or two of you doing it. It not only proves validity, but also a slight impression of your personal life.
